War of sexes? Nonsense

Disclaimer: This write-up does not take up responsibility to convince those feminists who want to debate on the topic just for the sake of debating. The writer is open for any constructive CnC.

Somehow, I just cannot relate to the debate of women Vs men, despite being a woman. Before proceeding further, let me clarify- I strongly support the cause of “Women EMPOWERMENT”, and my blood boils when I see atrocities against women. Empowerment means to be able to resist subjugation, and to improve upon one’s capabilities. That doesn’t mean being a lion you want to be an elephant. And I don’t understand why this should lead to a perennial “COMPETITION” between men and women.

When I was in school, we girls used to fight with boys a lot. “All guys are spoilt” and “All girls are dumb”- who would not relate with these slogans in their school life? But that was it. We all grow up and we do realize that we (men and women) are in fact made differently. And nature is not dumb. Everything happens for a purpose. And there is a purpose behind not making man and woman alike. Again I repeat, it is not that women are weak or are inferior, just that the two sexes are made to complement each other, not to compete.

 IMO there are certain areas of responsibilities which are specific to women folk, and the same goes with men. Even in animal kingdom, you’ll find specific AOR among sexes. The lioness goes for hunting, while the lion takes care of the cub (source: wiki).

In humans, parenting, hospitality, nursing- these areas are where women can do fabulous job. I always felt weird when I saw guys in place of the smiling face of an airhostess. Likewise I always felt weird when I saw a lady truck-driver for instance (no, not because women are considered horrible drivers, but because it is way too strenuous for them).  Apart from these exclusive roles, there are other areas where man and woman can take up responsibilities equally well, the software field for instance.

So why can’t we accept this fact that we(both men and women) are made differently, and feel proud about it, instead of trying to become something which nature hasn’t made us? We girls want to BE like boys, want to LIVE like boys, and love to be even CALLED tom-boyish. One 12-year old girl I know of still talks like “khaunga, aunga, baithunga, jaunga” etc. (sorry to non-Hindi speaking people), because her parents wanted to bring her up like a “guy”. I shudder at the thought of what effect it is going to have on her psyche once she realizes she’s a woman. Doing that just reflects how insecure we are with our own identity. I would never want my daughter (if I have one) to be brought up like a guy. I would make sure she feels proud in being the most beautiful specie on Earth while realizing that she is not inferior to anyone else. We’ll be much more at peace if we just comprehend our capabilities and the power (may not be physical one) nature has bestowed on us. Being otherwise would just disrupt the balance-nature or our own.

Let peace and sense prevail